Do you realize that loneliness is the number one problem that people EXIST with? Note I said exist with as they do not live with it, they exist with it! What about you?

Actually it is just a state of mind or feeling within that no one cares!

Why have some of us arrived at this state of mind? Years ago when our forefathers founded this great country, few had that feeling. Very few of the farmers near my ranch in Virgin, Utah, have it. When someone gets stuck on the road, or has any type of trouble, everyone turns out to help. Each knows the meaning of the golden rule! They go out of their way to help others.

But what has happened in the cities across America? In the cities, the people have the attitude of "get the other guy before he gets you." What a change! We have come a long way from earlier days, and I wonder WHY?

STOP and ask yourself: Is it true what the author is saying? Is this the type of environment I exist in?

The experience of living in southern Utah for a couple of years taught me a valuable lesson and from it I have learned a new way to live - a new golden rule.

You know that there is no greater satisfaction than giving without expecting something in return.

Isn't that quite a revelation! You know that down through the ages this is what the great mystics have been telling each one of us, so why don't we listen and practice it?

STOP-Reread this chapter and think on the statement - DO MORE FOR OTHERS THAN THEY CAN DO FOR YOU - for five minutes.

NOW - yes now think of today, have you:

Gone out of your way to get or gone out of you're way to give?

This is your choice. No one else is really watching you, but you know what you are thinking and doing. Remember the chapter in which we talked about the Laws. Remember the carrots - YOU ONLY GET WHAT YOU GIVE! Please pause and think, "How can I give more?" Then write your thoughts down.

Are you wealthy? I don't mean as far as money goes, but are you wealthy with friends? My father once told me that if I could have one true friend that I would be wealthy. Notice I said true friend. In asking him what he meant by a true friend, he said, "Someone who would give all they had without asking why, or when will I get it back?"

• Would you give half of what you have to your best friend?
• Would you give a quarter of all you have to your best friend?
• Maybe you would give him 10% of what you have, without asking questions, or would you?
• We only get what we are willing to give.

Remember our new golden rule?

You know from your carrot experiment what love will do and what hate will do. You also know what love projected will do. So why be lonely? Why do you think you are lonely? It is your choice. You know how to stop blaming others and live now. The results of this new way may be shocking to you. But you can handle it. Some of you are thinking to yourselves, "But I only think good of others." But do you? Do you really?

Here is a little experiment to try. To the next 10 people you meet, I want you to smile and send them love. Then to the second group of 10 people you meet, send hate. You can do this in your car, or wherever you are, so long as they are people that you haven't met before. Notice their reaction. Then realize that you get back whatever you send out.

So now realize the power of your mind, and how you attract loving people, simply by projecting love. You will find, as you project love, you will only attract that type of people.

STOP - Reread the above and try the experiment. After you do this and see the results then proceed with your workbook.

There is another secret to keeping and growing in a relationship with a new person. HOW? Ask yourself, who is the most important person to me? You are. Yes, you are, there is no one that is any more important in the world. You may ask yourself, how does this relate to my relationships with others. The point is that we must love ourselves before we can love another person!

You may say that is selfish. No, it isn't. How can you give something you don't have? Therefore, if you don't love yourself then you have no love to give. And if you don't love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you?

We are made with two ears and one mouth, therefore we should spend twice as much time listening as we do talking. When you meet another person, do you spend all the time talking about yourself? If you do, you will find that the other person does not really enjoy you. But if you listen and ask questions about the new friend, you will notice that he is interested in you, because you show an interest in him. As you develop interest in others, you find a lot of new friends and you will no longer be lonely. So you need to get out and be interested in new people. Show a real interest in them. Do NOT talk excessively about yourself.

Never, never tell friends what to do, how to act, or how to lead their lives. You may know people who do this. They think they know it all and when they spend their time telling others things wrong with them, what happens? Their so - called friends soon leave, and they are very lonely again. Therefore if you are tired of being lonely, look at the way you treat others, and see if you should change.

STOP - Meditate on the above and see how it relates to you. Does it? If so, what changes are you going to make?

But suppose you are shy. I know a lot of people who don't want to go out or just don't know how to get into the stream of life. Remember the water drop? Do you want to become old and stagnant? Or do you want to become part of the great living universe?

Do you feel sorry for the turtle? He can't get out of his shell, but you can. You don't have to spend your whole life in a shell, unless you want to. It is your choice. You are luckier than the turtle, because you can change your self - image. You can change your environment, and your friends. All you have to do is DO IT.

Have you ever seen a chicken hatch? He pecks at the shell until it breaks, and he comes into the light from his darkness.

If you are timid you can break that shell, just like the chicken, and get into the light. You can get into that stream of life.

It is your choice. No one else can do it for you. But all you have to have is the desire and you can do it.

HOW?

Very simple, use your MIND. Remember the chapter on the Mind? All you have to do is to use it to reprogram yourself.

Stop and review this chapter on loneliness. You know that you must be a friend to yourself and project love.

Then get out of your shell and change your image.